Friends to dating tips
You have more to lose with this person than another person that you have no history with and will never see again.”“If you are going to become lovers, then start a relationship like you normally would: date her,” Nicole recommends.
Assumptions are made and important questions aren’t asked because, well, things are blurry.“The question is: are you willing to risk the friendship?Be aware that your interaction with this person will change now that feelings are involved. ON BREAKUPS: Sometimes people just have pre-existing conditions. A pre-existing condition is everything somebody comes into a relationship with.A pre-existing condition is all the things that are blocking them from being focused on being in a relationship with you. ON FIGHTING: You can’t control anybody else’s behavior, so take power over what you can control — your feelings. They can disagree with how you perceive an event, or argue over their intentions, but if you say, “I’m hurt,” there is literally no way to logically deny that what you say is true. If you’re upset about something, remember this sentence construction: “When ____ happens, I feel _____”.“Every good romantic partnership has a solid friendship foundation.
If your friendship with her can have sexual chemistry and a deeper emotional connection, it could be a lasting committed relationship.
Why ruin a perfectly good friendship for one awkward night of sex?
Okay, so I would never claim to have it all figured out, but I can say that I’m pretty good at solving other people’s problems. My friends come to me for love and support and advice, and I can usually give them a little nugget or two of truthy, kind, realness to help them determine what to do. It might be that they’re not over their ex or that they still have to finish college.
And when the sex part gets between two hella good friends, it can go either way: super awkward or super awesome (as nakedness often goes down).
’ Start talking more seriously that you are looking for a relationship in general.
Ask her the same questions you would if you were on a real date.