Does dating become relationship
Not that that’s necessarily what you want—and if you’re getting laid and happy about it, more power to you.But if what you’re looking for is an actual relationship that might lead to something like a lifetime (or at least long-term) partnership, you’d be wise to arm yourself with ways to help you sift through all the dudes you meet, date, and sleep with, and focus on the ones with real relationship potential. I’m not saying you should go all and start playing hard to get, but you can save yourself a ton of time and energy that might otherwise be spent seeing emotionally unavailable, immature, incompatible, or game-playing men by using a few smart tactics.
“I see many women investing too much without the other person earning or giving back the same kindness, appreciation, and attention,” says Nelson.“If someone is into you, you don’t have to convince them of your worthiness, or make them see how much of a gem you are,” says Nelson.“Trust yourself and your gut: If you let go of the insecurities and mental chatter, you’ll know what to do and who is right for you.” If you’ve given it a fair shot, and a decent amount of time to find out who they are, give yourself a little tough love and delete that person from your life.“If they’re trying to see what your interests are, what matters to you, and ask about your friends and family, it’s worth seeing where it goes.”When you’re feeling a connection, of course you want to spend tons of time together, but make sure to pace yourself. “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being open about what you’re looking for in a potential match, and communicating that up front, but don’t be too aggressive.” Not only can that kind of behavior scare someone off—it’s just not how you, as an independent and confident woman, need to live.“Your world keeps moving on regardless of how much you like someone,” says Nelson.Who wants to be the one who always texts first or shows affection?
That doesn’t bode well for how this person would behave as a partner, anyway.
By that I do not mean that you should remove your filter and tell the person you’re seeing everything about you and what goes on in your mind (particularly if it’s obsessing about them, LOL).
I mean show them who you really are—a dorky history buff; a pop-culture obsessed clotheshorse; an introverted bookworm; or all of the above.
“Keep doing the things that fill you up as a person, and if he or she wants to be a part of that, great!
A relationship is supposed to enhance your life, not be the focus of it.” Preach.
“Time after time, I have clients who do this and end up realizing that attraction was leading the relationship.” Sex is key—but it’s not enough.