Dating unattractive men
And here I have to admit that I am undoubtedly judging their books by their covers, but I have yet to find the exception to the rule. But I find that women are much more inclined to date with their emotions - to pick a man that is funny, comforting, kind, and generous - and they'll often pick one or all of those traits over his looks. To explain: These high-school hotties are used to having the sort of unadulterated, fawning adoration that the symmetrically blessed always get in high-school, but the problem is that it doesn't do them any good. I also have a little (and relatively untested) theory.
Literally 2/3 of male messages go to the best looking 1/3 of women.I can think of a couple instances off the top of my head.Both men are balding, but professionals, super nice, intelligent, thoughtful, in good shape, and fun to hang around. I haven’t seen the other’s profile (he’s a friend from church) but, really?And it's struck a chord with the millions of other men who believe they are also too ugly to find love.So what is it like to be an ugly man in Britain today?As Ok Cupid observed, the medical term for this is “male pattern madness”.
4) Women engage in similar behavioral patterns, just not as extreme.
Finally, you’ll see that since you can’t force people to write to you (since most men and women are chasing younger, more attractive people), ALL you can do is open up to others and improve the way you interact on your dating site. Looking at the pictures of their highly-rated and average males and females, I think I realized part of the problem.
Could it be that the responders to their questionnaires were rather young, and that’s why the “hottest” guys appear 18-20 while OK Cupid’s employees who look to be at least mid-20s were even considered semi-decent?
You can’t be too disappointed when you don’t get a reply.
Next, you could say to yourself, “Hmm…if all the other women are writing to the top 5%, that means those men in the 50-90th percentile are comparatively being neglected.” Thus, you’re going to have a lot more success writing to the proverbial “6’s” and “7s” than the “10’s”.
This doesn’t mean that they’re not shallow (they are), but rather, that they are consistent and reasonable in terms of “rating” women’s looks.