Dating someone who has kids
Second of all, you don't want to rush into a marriage just because you think time is passing you by. The best thing you can do is to pray and ask God what characteristics you should be looking for in a husband.Then, while you pray for God to bring you the right man, just be busy about the ministry work God has assigned you.
I dont really think anything too much about him, but i can just see how much he loves the Lord and is involved in the church, whichi is really what i like in a man.And the kids will resent any new woman in his life and think she is trying to take their mom's place more then likely. I just did have a conversation on here with a member who has a male relative who wife abandoned their infant son..he never knew her but does yearn for a mother. Since this man at your church has three children... Plus when marrying someone with children and then having one together..its just too easy to favor that baby you to had over step children and a terrible resentment can build between them and the new baby. Apart from grace-driven effort, people do not gravitate toward godliness, prayer, obedience to Scripture, faith, and delight in the Lord.The children end of feeling in the way and not wanted... I didn't get married until I was in my early thirties and had my son just before I turned 35..and more couples are waiting until later in life to marry and have children, (recent studies show.) I used to feel like such an odd ball being an older parent but I am running into more and more older parents all the time. Also, my marriage didn't work out either.was very abusive..is something else you need to be careful of..getting so desperate you will practically marry any guy that comes along. We drift toward compromise and call it tolerance; We drift toward disobedience and call it freedom; We drift toward superstition and call it faith.Anyways this man has three kids from his previous marriage, which he has custody of.I dont know his history or how long he has been saved.... Im just going to be blunt..i dont know if i can really date someone who has a family, shoot, he may not even want more children anyways.and moonglow, i always thought the same things about resentment from a new baby in the family, because i see it all the time from my friends who grew up in broken homes. and yes, i do feel like i have to hurry to meet someone,mostly because at least 3 or 4 times a wekk, someone kindly reminds me that it gets harder and harder to have children, to meet someone and so on.
and moonglow, i always thought the same things about resentment from a new baby in the family, because i see it all the time from my friends who grew up in broken homes.thank you alll!
That hasn't stopped me from laying out a set of criteria for the man I'd want if God should reveal that marriage was in the plan for me afterall.
That might sound too logical and totally unromantic but I'd rather have a man that is a good fit for me that to have someone "sweep me off my feet".
I have 3 siblings, all of them married people with children. My one sister is happily married, but the kids present a challenge and she's having a bit of a hard time dealing with them.
Blended families present challenges that could put additional stress on a relationship, so you have to be sure this is what you want.
I don't think that I have much chance of that now that I'm about to turn 47!