After five years of dating
Meaning, three years of dating also allowed us to build a strong awareness of our expectations of one another, and how we view and interact with each other and the world." Five years: "I couldn't afford to save for a ring for nearly two years. However, I lost my job around the time I wanted to propose and spent my free time finishing school.After graduating, it took me nearly a year-and-a-half to find another job.
These are some of the many questions Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford, has been asking as part of a longitudinal study he started in 2009.“We know a lot more about the relationships that worked out than the ones that didn’t,” said Rosenfeld.“The way the census and other surveys tend to collect data just doesn’t produce a very good picture.The thing that factored most was waiting for my head to catch up with my heart.We knew that we fit each other very well within the first two weeks of knowing each other.We are both in our 30s, and I think once you reach a certain age, you know what you want and you know what you need and when you find it, you hold on tight." Nine months: "I remember thinking at three months that I would totally marry him right now.
But then we got to know each other even more, we got into some necessary arguments, and our love grew even stronger.
How long did you date your partner before he or she popped the question?
It may have only been months, or perhaps it felt like an eternity.
If I could go back I think we would probably have waited a shorter amount of time." 10 years: "We started dating in high school and continued through college, so there were always a lot of other things going on.
Both of us valued our relationship, but wanted to accomplish other goals before making getting married a priority.
It took some time for my head that was saying, 'this can never work — we don't even live in the same country,' to catch up with my heart that knew he was the one for me. Although, I was worried that other people would think it was too fast, especially because we were dating long distance — but ultimately, it doesn't matter what other people think.